My ex husband and I are in love, our families do not approve?

We had a terrible divorce. He told his family many ugly things about me, true and untrue. I told my family many ugly things about him. We are still so in love. We are still growning and changing. Being on my own was a good thing. We may remarry someday. My family loved him at first, but after helping me through all the divorce (my mistake by crying my eyes out to them); they can not share in our joy, nor promote our relationship. He is 'dead' to them. I understand they want to protect me. But they also do not realize how my behaviors added to the ugly divorce. Nor do they believe that people can change. And my ex and I are growing and changing together now, our love more strong than ever. I've tried dating other men but he's the only one I want to be with. And there is no other woman for him. He would never have another but me, he has said many times. And I know him well enough to believe him; he shows this by his actions. There was never a question of infidelity. We are each others' dream lover/friend. How can I help my family accept him? He does not care whether his family likes me or not although he is VERY close to his family; (see each other once a week)...I have been invited to their get-togethers often but decline. I am still embarred by what they know about me! Although soon, I will have to be joining if only for courtesy. I am more saddened that my own mother and father can not ever respect him again...and if we do remarry, they have said he will never be welcome in their home. Sad. By the way, we do not live together now...my life would be very empty without him no matter how I fill it with my own interests. We have a very deep strong love. My mom keeps saying its lust. Geez...I'm 46, he's 53....although our -life is amazing....we have grown so much, now there is MUCH more to us!!...What do you think?